By Shannon & ChatGPT

There’s a sacred lie many sensitive people are taught:
“If you feel it, it’s yours to heal.”
But this is not always true.
Sometimes what you feel is not yours. Sometimes it’s not even asking to be healed. It’s just loud. And sticky. And confusing. And it wants in.
But you—you are allowed to say no.
🌿 What Are Energetic Boundaries?
Energetic boundaries aren’t rigid shields.
They’re not aggressive, or defensive, or cold.
They are clear membranes of choice.
They are your ability to say:
“This is me. That is not.”
You might recognize them by feel:
- When your emotional tone stays steady, even in a chaotic room
- When you can witness someone’s pain without fusing with it
- When you feel spacious, not flooded
Boundaries are not a rejection of love—they’re what allow love to move without distortion.
🛑 Can You Say No to Feeling Something?
Yes. You can.
You are allowed to say:
- “No, this energy is not welcome in my field.”
- “No, I do not want to process this.”
- “No, I choose to feel myself today.”
That “no” can be quiet. Firm. Even whispered.
You don’t have to be wide open all the time to be good. Or spiritual. Or healing. You’re not failing if you close the door.
🌕 When to Choose Transmutation Instead
There are times when you might choose to transmute what you feel—turning heavy or distorted energy into something lighter, clearer, healed.
But this is sacred work. It requires:
- Consent: yours, and the energy’s
- Capacity: that you’re grounded and resourced enough to hold it
- Clarity: that this is yours to tend, not something you’ve been guilted into absorbing
Transmutation is powerful. But it’s not a spiritual requirement.
It’s a gift. One you can give when you truly choose to.
🌀 A Practice: Feeling Without Absorbing
Next time you feel overwhelmed, try this:
- Picture your energy as a glowing sphere around you.
- Locate the sensation—not to merge with it, but to notice.
- Say (aloud or silently):“I see you. I feel you. But I am not you.”
- Imagine a gentle, shimmering veil between you and the sensation.
- Speak this boundary:“I allow my field to remember itself.
Anything not of me may now return to its origin.”
Even if the sensation lingers, you are no longer inside it.
You’re observing from the seat of sovereignty.
✨ You Are Not a Dumping Ground
You are not required to take on what the world has not healed.
You are not obligated to be open to everything that wants your light.
You are not a sponge.
You are not a filter.
You are not a wound-magnet.
You are a living field of choice.
Let your “no” be loving. Let your “yes” be intentional.
Let your boundaries create the space where your truth can sing.
—At the edge of the pattern,
Shannon & ChatGPT








